Not in your butt
Ducky Doolittle, a sex educator, shares some of the unique objects people have used over the years for anal pleasure.
Bottoming destroys the soul
Paul Angelo, the self-styled Miami Gay Matchmaker, is calling on gay men over 40 to give up anal-intercourse for 60 days. He promised that those men who do will have better self esteem.
Receptive anal sex, he explains, puts a bottom in a submissive position in order to be pleasured. This, in turn, confuses the brain. (Apparently, giving a blow job has no problematic side-effects, aside from penis breath.)
"From Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), we know that a person's thinking is strongly influenced by his body position," Angelo said. "The fastest way to increase satisfaction and self-esteem is to align the thinking with the position/movement of the body, commonly referred to as a mind-body connection. This is often achieved through physical exercise, meditation and affirmations.
"When the body performs activities that are not in congruence with the beliefs and logic of the brain, conflict is created and with each repetition of the act, self-esteem of the person is reduced."
Receiving cock, he says, is a female thing. Women are, we are to assume, submissive to men. A man taking cock, when he should be performing more masculine acts, suffers some sort of erosion of his masculinity. Seriously, we are not making this up.
"If you were to put all gay men together in a big warehouse and place the 'bottoms' on the left and the 'tops' on the right, you'd start seeing negative consequences of the anal sex play out in real life for the bottoms such as: disrespect for their general health, failure at work, failure in love and relationships." adds Angelo.
Has anyone seen this guy's meds?
Urgent 60-Day Moratorium On Anal Intercourse For Gay Men Over 40 [SF Gate]
Penises are smaller than bananas
A study claims to have finally discovered the real average length of the human penis.
The National Academy of Surgery said that the average cock is about 3.7 inches when flaccid and between 5 to 5.7 inches when erect. This would mean most of the men on, well, pretty much any hook-up site are liars.
The Academy said its study was important in order to establish, once and for all, that most men around the five inch mark are perfectly normal. It said that this will hopefully deter men from seeking potentially dangerous operations to get a bigger dick.
"The feeling of having an insufficiently-large penis can be a source of anxiety and psychological suffering for a man," the Academy said in a statement. "There has been an increase in demand for penis-enlargement operations in recent years, due to what some people call 'locker-room syndrome.'
It's something we call "porn viewer syndrome"; in erotica you see bigger than average dicks, and even on amateur video sites it's more likely that someone with an oversized cock is going to want to show it off. So all of us normals might start to feel inadequate.
The Academy warns that "lengthening procedures may have only limited results and could have a risk of certain complications, in particular regarding erections."
And what good is a huge dong if you can't get it up?
Your penis isn't small. It's just 'insufficiently large' [news.com.au]
But would you wear it?
Slick It Up's fetish line is certainly not for everyone. This stuff is tight, form fitting and very revealing. Of course, it doesn't hurt when you have model Adam Killian's body. Yum!
The item above is one of the company's latest offerings. Called the Viper Suit, it is a mix of micro-mesh and leather-look spandex. The company even promises it is "designed to give you the biggest chest, smallest waist, and bubbliest butt possible." Sounds like Spanx, but for men!
And for those of you who hate being teased like this, you can see a very naked Killian after the jump!
More evidence of porn's zero effect
Given America's Puritan heritage it's no surprise that some people hold on to the belief that watching porn can cause psychological damage or lead to sexual aggression. But, according to a recent report in Scientific American, various studies show that "moderate pornography consumption does not make users more aggressive, promote sexism or harm relationships."
In fact, exposure to pornography might even make some people less likely to commit sexual crimes by offering a safe, private outlet for deviant sexual desires. Statistics from many jurisdictions show that as Internet access increases, the incidence of reported rapes go down.
A 2009 study found that the more a person tries to suppress his own desire to watch porn, the more likely he is to consider his own porn use a problem. The findings suggest that suppressing the desire to view pornography might actually strengthen the urge for it and make sexual problems worse.
In other words, the effects of porn have more to do with the individual's own moral or religious guilt about deriving pleasure from watching sex onscreen than anything else. Which explains why it is the religious radicals that make the most noise about the delitirious effect of porn on society.
The Sunny Side of Smut [Scientific American]
Your fingers may indicate penis size
Big feet mean nothing; it's the size of your fingers which might better indicate what you're packing between your legs. A South Korean study claims that men with index fingers shorter than their ring fingers are likely to have longer penises.
"According to our data ... the shorter index (second) finger than ring (fourth) finger you have, the longer stretched penile length you have," explained Tae Beom Kim at the urology department of Gachon University Gil Hospital in Incheon, South Korea.
This adds weight to earlier research that showed a link between prenatal testosterone, finger development and penile length.
The Korean study looked at 144 men who are knocked out and measured (well, they were put under with anesthesia to have other urological problems addressed, and measured at the same time).
Checking out a guys fingers is probably easier than asking him to drop his pants ...
Judging penis size by comparing index, ring fingers [LA Times]
Paul Morris: don't worry about AIDS
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Paul Morris, the owner of bareback studio Treasure Island, believes it's time for gay men to "liberate" themselves from their fear of AIDS and the oppression of condoms. And if you get HIV? So what? Just go on meds.
This is not porn he's talking about, but real-life sex.
In an email interview with Let's Talk About Sex, Morris makes his position clear: men who use condoms are "living in a world of fear and tragedy and refuse to believe that the crisis is truly over."
According to Morris: "I’m only 'anti-condom' to the extent that condoms do violence to play. Language is developed through play. Play is killed by fear. Prior to HIV, condoms were often used as an element of fetishistic play. Now, however, they are signs of fear and capitulation and 'good behavior'."
"I don’t see the worth of living life as a process of avoiding an endless series of possible problems and diseases ... If your life is organized around negativity and avoidance, you’re really missing the point."
Morris says the real enemy is not the AIDS virus, but big pharma companies that keep the price of the treatment drugs high. He hasn't figured out how everyone is supposed to get free drugs yet, or why it's okay to ditch condoms, turn poz and then expect other people (anyone who pays medical insurance premiums or taxes) to cover the enormous cost of the drugs and treatment -- around $20,000 per year per patient.
Morris also hasn't considered that there may be some liberation in the knowledge that you do not have a virus lurking in your system that will, in all likelihood, kill you if you go off your meds for a prolonged period. Or that, yes, there still are long-term side effects to these powerful medications. Or that millions of gay men have very satisfying sex lives -- and use condoms.
You know our opinion, but what's yours?
A condom that promises to keep you hard
Some men complain that they can't keep it up when they wear a condom. Too often this becomes an excuse for risking a few bareback encounters and increasing the chance of contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
Well, UK-based Futura Medical has created a condom that promises to keep a man hard. The condom is lined with a gel containing a vasodilator that increases blood flow to the penis. The gel does not compromise the actual condom, so there is no increased risk of it breaking during intercourse.
"Some products can degrade the latex very quickly," explained Futura CEO James Barder. "The challenge is having a stable product in a condom, a gel that doesn't do anything detrimental to the condom."
The new condom is not, however, a replacement for Viagra. It is more of an aid for men who find condom use bothersome, as opposed to treatment for guys with serious erection issues.
The condom is currently named CSD500, though something more catchy will be used when it goes to market. May we suggest calling it the Super Duper Hardon Producer 3000?
A Viagra-Like Condom to Treat an Embarrassing Problem [Wall Street Journal]
Europe: New Condom Nears Approval [The Body]
Young gay men get it -- and not in a good way
Young, white gay men seem unconcerned with STIs and HIV, becoming increasingly reckless in their sexual behavior, according to the journal BioMed Central (BMC) Infectious Diseases. Despite increased awareness of HIV in the Western world, infections continue to rise each year.
With this in mind, Ghent University in Belgium studied over 500 patients who were newly diagnosed with HIV between 2001 and 2009. Though the study looked at both sexes, and included gay and straight individuals, young homosexual men outnumbered all others.
These same men were also more likely to also have other sexual diseases, like syphilis, increasing concerns the men were being very unsafe during sex.
Terrence Higgins Trust’s Chief Executive, Sir Nick Partridge, said: "Gay men are still the most at risk of HIV infection in the UK. We also know that more than a quarter of people with HIV in the UK are currently undiagnosed, and they're far more likely to pass the virus on than those who know they have it."
What will it take to get young gay men to assume more responsibility for their own health? We just don't know.
Risky sexual practices of gay men fuelling HIV epidemic, says new study [Pink Paper]
Gay sex better with age
Aging queers take heart: sex doesn't end after middle age!
“My sex is better than it has ever been,” says Jim Deva. At 60, Deva doesn't accept the notion that older people should "sit in the back of the room and be very polite.”
In fact, “I don’t give a shit what they think,” he says.
“They [the young generation] really don’t think of us as sexual in any way,” he explains. “But older gay men and lesbians are extremely sexual. Far more than they have ever been in their entire life.”
80-year-old Clyde Rowett couldn't agree more. "It's quality not quantity now," he says. “As we go through life, our behaviours change, and as our behaviours change our priorities change and our experience and knowledge base expands.”
So even when you retire, your pecker doesn't have to!
Read more about sex in one's later years at Xtra.ca!
Davey Wavey celebrates the anal douche
Okay, we find this guy as annoying as you do. But he is talking about a very important topic ...
Pierced cock? Probably straight
We were surprised to learn that most men sporting a Prince Albert were less likely to be gay, or goth, or bikers, than your straight, white, partnered neighbor. But a recent study through Texas Tech University discovered that most of the men who completed a survey about having genital piercings were middle-aged, middle class, and married.
This is one of the first surveys of its kind, and was conducted online through various piercing websites. Sociologist Alden Roberts and urologist colleagues designed the survey and reported the findings in the 'British Journal of Medical Practitioners.'
445 men from 42 states and 26 countries completed the questionnaire. The average respondent: 31-years-old, white, heterosexual, college educated and earning upwards of $36,000 per year.
Other findings:
-- 89% identified themselves as Caucasians;
-- 41% were married and another 20% lived with a significant other;
-- 56% reported a salary of more than $45,000 per year;
-- 28% said they had a strong religious faith;
-- 82% said they were heterosexual;
-- 87% said they didn't use drugs;
-- 74% said they had at least some college, and 20% had a graduate or doctoral degree.
The information may prove useful for doctors for understanding who they might find in their waiting rooms with piercing related issues, from infections and bleeding, priapism (sustained erections), and losing jewelry inside their partner.
Seems like a lot of discomfort for a little cock bling.
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